Life seems out of control.
Getting up and going can feel as impossible as driving a car without gas.
Falling asleep is as improbable as re-collecting a ball of yarn as it unravels downhill.
Gaining control of it all… is like trying to hold water in your hands.
What’s more, others seem to make life look easy.
Sometimes the past can become the present.
Insidious by nature, complex trauma is hard to recognize.
People think, “I wasn’t abused, I had a good childhood, or whatever happened in the past is behind me and unrelated to what’s happening now.”
Unfortunately, traumatic events don’t always stay in the past. Circumstances can trigger re-experiences of those past events.
Complex trauma is not rare.
The thing to know about complex trauma (also known as developmental trauma) is that most of us have it to some degree.
Chances of making it through youth without the pain of social injustices, natural disasters, loss of loved ones, or physical trauma are slim.
Add to that funky family dynamics (even with the best of intentions), and you’ve got a world full of complex trauma.
Learn to focus beyond your trauma.
Identifying the cause of your trauma and events that trigger a reaction to the trauma helps you focus on the present rather than the past.
You’re right, we can’t change or fix the things that happened in the past because the past is what it is.
What we can do, however, is disentangle from the clutches of the past that continue to live in our nervous system.
If life returns to dull or overwhelming no matter what you do or try, I can help you disentangle what haunts you. This is my specialty.
Give me a call for a free consultation.
If you’re a clinical junky, read on…
What is complex trauma? It is chronic or repeated states of significant physiological dysregulation resulting from a range of environmental stressors during youth.
Youth is significant because it is when we learn about who we are. Our very survival in this imperfect world depends on our wise ability to adapt to whatever is happening around us. Developmentally, youth cannot fully take in the complexity of situations, which means that everything is likely to get distorted.
Over time, our successful adaptations become patterns of how we relate to ourselves and others in this world, and at some point, those patterns may hold us back instead of supporting a vibrant life. This is because adaptations often develop at the expense of connection (with Self and/or others).
When physiological conditions are present, disconnection contributes to the development of anxiety, depression, mood disorders, substance use, and other forms of mental illness.
The good news is….
You are reading this webpage and can use this information to transform how you experience your life.
Don’t let trauma from your youth rule your current life.
It is time to gain control!
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